A Personal Observation: Beginning a New Year

With the stressful part of the holidays now over, we can relax and look forward to the beginning of the new year. 2012.  It doesn’t seem possible that we’re already into the second decade of the new millennium, but we are. My how time flies. So much has happened in the last twelve years. So much of our lives have changed. It’s nice to look back and smile at all the good times, but what about the bad? We have to take the good a long with the bad, but it doesn’t mean we have to dwell on it.

Tomorrow marks a new beginning, but sometimes old problems or negativity follow us and taint our shiny new year. Things that aren’t a real problem anymore, might still dig at us and we can’t seem to let them go even if we have to. I created a ritual just for this occasion. Use it if you like. It’s quite simple and it may help to expel any left-over negativity.

The important thing about this rite is giving yourself permission to let things go. We’ve all said that things don’t bother us, but deep down inside they still do. That is our fault, no one else’s. We HAVE to allow ourselves to release left-over anger or resentment in order to truly release the negative energy.

Once we’re in the right mind-set, find a place that’s quiet and where you won’t be disturbed. I like to sit outside. The dark and cold seem almost fitting for this rite. Plus, I heard a wolf last year. Try to do this close to midnight, say 11:45. Light a white candle and watch the flame. Breathe in deeply and exhale deeply a few times, letting all the tension drain away. Close your eyes and listen to the sounds around you. Once you feel you’re relaxed, start going over all the negative times you’ve experienced this year. You have to own them before you can dispel them. Accept the ones that were your doing, acknowledging this out loud. Something like;

“I accept that I was really horrible to [name here] over [incident].”

Then, say;

“I forgive myself, and allow myself to release any undo anger or resentment over [incident].

Do the same with people in your life.

“I release any anger or negativity I have with [name of person].”   

Get all of your unwanted baggage out in the open. If you have a lot, then start this rite earlier. The key is to have this all off your chest by the time the clock strikes midnight. Midnight is the beginning of the new year and you don’t want all that crap following you into 2012.

Saying this out-loud is affirming your desire and helps to focus your energy in letting go. If you want, take a deep breath and exhale after each spoken release. Feel the emotion you have drain away, and feel the weight left off your shoulders. I do feel lighter afterward.

When you’re done sit and relax. Meditate on the good emotions that you hope to have in the new year. Feel pleased with yourself that you’ve released this negative emotion. Stay in this meditative state until Midnight and then a few moments afterward. Be calm as the year rolls in. If you hear people marking the time, allow yourself to revel in their merry-making.

Stay in your place for as long as you like after the New Year has arrived. When you’re ready, sniff out the candle and go back inside, or to bed, or whatever.

Have a great night, and see you next year!


About Darke Conteur
Darke Conteur is a writer at the mercy of her Muse. The author of stories in several genres, she prefers to create within the realms Science Fiction and Dark Fantasy. A pagan at heart, her personal goal it to find her balance within nature; exploring the dark through her stories and the light through her beliefs. When not writing or working with crystals, she enjoys knitting, gardening, cooking and very loud music.

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