A New Year’s Eve Ritual

With the stressful part of the holidays now over, we can relax and look forward to the beginning of the new year. It doesn’t seem possible that we’re already close to half way through the second decade of the new millennium, but we are. My how time flies. So much has happened. So much of our lives have changed. It’s nice to look back and smile at all the good times, but what about the bad? We have to take the good a long with the bad, but it doesn’t mean we have to dwell on it.

Tomorrow marks a new beginning, but sometimes old problems or negativity follow us and taint our shiny new year. Things that aren’t a real problem anymore might still dig at us and we can’t seem to let them go even if we have to. I created a ritual just for this occasion. Use it if you like. It’s quite simple and it may help to expel any left-over negativity.

The important thing about this rite is giving yourself permission to let things go. We’ve all said that things don’t bother us, but deep down inside they still do. That is our fault, no one else’s. We HAVE to allow ourselves to release left-over anger or resentment in order to truly release the negative energy.

Once we’re in the right mind-set, find a place that’s quiet and where you won’t be disturbed. I like to sit outside. The dark and cold seem almost fitting for this rite. I heard a wolf one year and it reminded me of my connection to nature.


Try to do this close to midnight, say 11:45. Light a smudge stick of sage or of any other herb that is connected with banishing or cleansing. Let the smoke drift over you. Inhale the smoke. Imagine your anger and negativity wash away from you as the smoke surrounds you.

Light a white candle and watch the flame. Breathe in deeply and exhale deeply a few times, letting all the tension drain away. Close your eyes and listen to the sounds around you. Once you feel you’re relaxed, start going over all the negative times you’ve experienced this year. You have to own them before you can dispel them. Accept the ones that were you’re doing, acknowledging this out loud. Something like;

“I accept that I was really horrible to [name here] over [incident].”

Then, say;

“I forgive myself, and allow myself to release any undo anger or resentment over [incident].

Do the same with people in your life.

“I release any anger or negativity I have with [name of person].”   

Get all of your unwanted baggage out in the open. If you have a lot, then start this rite earlier. The key is to have this all off your chest by the time the clock strikes midnight. Midnight is the beginning of the new year and you don’t want all that crap following you. 


About Darke Conteur
Darke Conteur is a writer at the mercy of her Muse. The author of stories in several genres, she prefers to create within the realms Science Fiction and Dark Fantasy. A pagan at heart, her personal goal it to find her balance within nature; exploring the dark through her stories and the light through her beliefs. When not writing or working with crystals, she enjoys knitting, gardening, cooking and very loud music.

2 Responses to A New Year’s Eve Ritual

  1. I really like this. I didn’t have too much baggage in 2013–though 2012 was a different story. 🙂

    Can you explain smudge stick? Do you light it and then tamp it out?

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